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And for the ones who cannot take time to read 3 posts: a summary of gay and corporate injustice leading to suicide: thanks to gay discrimination and LULULEMON

Posted by wilfried on 03 Mar 2013 / 61 Comments

 

First i expect to be judged or put in the trash bag because i used to be a porn “star”, because generalization is now commonplace in this world, because no one ever reflects anymore, because reality shows have now taken over anything that once challenged our minds. But it is ok, i am not going to apologize for what i have been up to. Sex is only shameful if you want it to be. And my identity does not disgrace my partner’s. He was his own man and in no way should be judged for who he was dating. In any relationship we still stay who we are, individually. And he was as respectable as one can be. And as for myself, i am not druggy, no drunk. Those ready to stereotype me can consult those who know me personally: i am happier hiking or climbing than in any party, and FYI, i have never attended any circuit party. If all men travelling for circuit parties would travel down to every capital city in the world together, gay marriage would already be widespread, just sayin..

 

Yes i was a porn star, but it always had been a hobby. In the meantime, i also graduated in law, in chinese medicine, in personal training. I have always achieved academically, and always assumed my choices. I will not apologize. I do not see how having sex on screen is less socially acceptable than being a corporate banker regularly backstabbing anyone on his way in order to get richer. To be honest, if what i did bothers anyone, well, no one ever forces anyone to watch, right?

 

And yes, a porn “star” (still laughing at the term itself) can fall in love, can be in a relationship, and no one but the two people involved, has the right to judge. What people do together in bed or not stay their business.

And i was in love, and so was my partner. He let me be who i wanted to be. He did not agree with everything i was but he let me be. He gave me the best 8, almost 9 years of my life.

And this amazing guy committed suicide by hanging last week, after fighting for so long for us to stay together.

 

Because this story is not about me, it is about him, us, and any happy gay couple treated differently that “normal” people. I do not want attention to my own person, i want NO money, simply because money will not make me happier, will not bring him back. I want this story to help pushing reforms in politics and behaviors, that is all.

 

I will try to keep details brief to come to the point, more details are on my blog on www.wilfried-knight.net, which probably will be taken down, no surprise here.

 

Jerry and I met almost 9 years ago when he was on a work trip to London and i was living there. Spark flew, he came back again and again..He was the kind of man i could look up to, romantic, handsome, took care of his mother, overall a very sweet man that got blown off by many people before. Not the right guy for the corporate world one might say. After realizing we were right for each other and wanted to be together, well, we also realized for two gay men from different countries it is hard to find a way to settle down as a couple unlike both men individually get a working visa for the same country. I took on studying again, in a field i always dreamt of, acupuncture, and with student visa in hands, moved to Portland Oregon, where we spent an amazing 6 years. Jerry was an amazing partner who i could live with, sleep with, imagining getting old together without fear of aging. We had an implicit trust of each other. Of course it was not perfect, it never is. You compromise. If you spend your time screaming around how perfect your marriage is (hmmmmm, country stars anybody..) and need to make a display of it, you know it means divorce within two years maximum.

 

Then….My curriculum was going to come to an end, meaning, my visa was going to end.Never mind our commitment, our years together, i was to be thrown out. My partner knew it and decided to look for a job in the only country that would allow us to be together and marry: Canada.

And i know what most people will say: Why didn’t you guys marry in Washington, or California, or NYC? Well, IF YOU ARE TWO GAY MEN FROM DIFFERENT NATIONALITY, STATE MARRIAGE DOES NOT MATTER, EVEN IF ONE IS AMERICAN: IT NEEDS TO EXIST ON THE FEDERAL LEVEL TO APPLY TO A MULTINATIONAL COUPLE.

In France, you partner if foreign must be a resident already, in Canada, if none are Canadian, they can get married but they cannot stay. One of them needs to be Canadian.

So my partner, with a plan to get a job in Canada, decided to get married together in Vancouver. That way, if he did get a job there, i would get a spousal visa, and all would be ok, right? Sadly that is the way you have to think if you do not want to be split up. We basically had to leave the USA like if we were some kind of criminals looking for asylum when in fact we only were a happy couple with a dog just trying to be happy.

We got married in January 2 years ago, a week after a chest surgery i had due to a pre cancerous tumor. I could not even get married in a tight gay shirt, damn it!

That done, he got a position in Canada, one he was so proud of: working as a product manager for the IVIVA branch of LULULEMON. I got him into yoga a few years before. The company sounded right, he felt welcome, was boasting about it everywhere he could. One of the Company’s motto is “friends are better than money”, right? . He fast realized it was not so much what he was expecting it to be. I always personally believe that even if you involve yourself in a company as you should, your personal life stays so. You did not suddenly enter a cult…Well with LULULEMON, it seems he did. He had to do yoga in mornings even if not feeling like it, he had to pretend to like sushi, drink soy milk (someone will have to tell me since when and why processed soy is better than milk for any caucasian), was judged if he had been seen drinking on a week end.. Somehow the company who pretended to be all about yoga did not quite apply the philosophy it should have embraced. Yoga is not about vanity, is not about judging. Whereas people in LULULEMON do yoga only for one thing: look better than their neighbor, will drink soy milk and eat tofu only to pretend to be special and give themselves the right to judge another…Errrr as far as i am concerned, our grand parents never had any of that kind of food and were perfectly fine and fit. Diet fads are just for the ordinary girl to pretend she suddenly belong to a special circle and way to good to relate to the ordinary human being.

My partner Jerry Enriquez took over a young girl branch of Lulu, called IVIVA. Its manager BREE STANLAKE, stayed for few months, during which the collapsing derelict branch was getting worse and worse in terms of sales, and Jerry was trying desperately, as many gay men would, to change it. Whereas she opposed any changes. Never mind she was soon to go on a year sabbatical, which she did, leaving Jerry in a deep hole having to justify for what he had not done since he was a newcomer, only there for a few months. Remember Obama taking over the mess Bush left behind?

In the meantime, the product manager, Bridey Payne (what an appropriate name) decided she also developed antipathy towards Jerry as a person, when she had NO idea Bree, who was supposedly her friend, wanted to get rid of her. While Jerry felt for her, and tried to keep her on, Bridey kept on blaming him more and more finally taking a sick leave for “personal issues”. May i just say that while she was on sick leave, she was happily seen partying at the Burning man? She must have been really sick, right? She now is happily back in Lulu…

 

 

 

Now let’s go back to the cult part: Jerry had to attend a training that all LULULEMON employees have to go through: LANDMARK. Is that german for scientology? Training in which he was forced to admit humans are just machines and have no feeling such as grief, etc…He came back from that training exhausted everyday. But he made one major mistake: he answered back to the training s host, and of course from then one was blacklisted. Then hounded on the phone to take part in more training sessions: they would call him several times in a day….LULULEMON was on to him to be part of the cult, no such thing as individuality was permitted. His fate was sealed. However hard he tried he seemed to satisfy, nobody would give him any credit, while his predecessor was on a sabbatical, happily taking NO responsibility in the mess left behind.

Finally last straw: Paul ZAENGLE, freshly brought in and probably on to get rid of him, gave Jerry ONE week to comply to politics and admit his mistakes in marketing, which were not his, but BREE’s (Jerry only was in Lululemon for less than 9 months, how could he be responsible for failing sales of previous collections). But you see, a straight man, would have given a month at least to improve. Jerry was told on a tuesday to improve, sacked on the following friday. When asked to sign the document, he discovered they wanted to state “poor performance” as a reason. Of course he had it changed since they had no basis for it.

From then, Jerry of course worried about his visa, our visa. Lululemon lawyers could not give him a straight answer (isn’t that what lawyers are supposed to do) and all they could tell him was: “do not worry, you are fine, you can stay in the country, as long as you do not leave and can look for a job). Sadly Jerry then tried to use his care card to go to his general practician, to discover it was no longer valid. Thrown off to the wolves, with no right, nowhere to go with his partner, as of course, with his visa cancelled, so was mine. Oh yes, and by the way,

With a great resume behind him, he tried , tried, so hard to find a job…But in Vancouver, if you left Lululemon, which is supposedly the place to be, NO ONE will be interested, because no one dares to challenge Chip Wilson s empire. Never mind the cult behavior, never mind the child labour they use abroad, the very poor quality of clothes, everyone will just follow.

People who were supposed to be his mentors, his friends never replied his calls. Sheree Waterson, who was supposed to be his mentor, never even bothered to say” i cannot give you a reference”. It was not so hard to do, was it? Oh and Margaret Wheeler, the LA trip’s snitch, i have not forgotten you: can you seriously sleep at night?

And lastly: Jerry discovered than though he got a severance package, a straight family who went through our same fate was offered way more and also had their relocation paid for.

What? Aren’t we supposed to be a family as well?

Jerry who truly believed in the good of people tried and tried again to find a valid reason to carry on. Yes of course we had each others, but a 46 years old man deserves some kind of validation after being let go from a company he admired, from a company where he listened to his female colleagues break up storied, held them as they cried: HE CARED. But he would have loved people to care back.

 

People will say he was selfish, left me behind: no he didn’t. Sadly he intended for me to go with him. He hung himself. Terrible death. But he left on side an unopened bottle of wine and sleeping pills for me to follow him (he took sleeping pills after the firing incident as the whole bullying went on).

 

He left no will, which means: outside Canada, i am nothing to him. His sister, whose first question was upon being told of his death “did he leave something for my daughter”?” pockets everything.

 

The point of my story is:

 

 

-US OR ANY COUNTRY SHOULD HAVE NATIONAL/FEDERAL GAY MARRIAGE TO ALLOW PEOPLE LIKE JERRY AN ME TO BE TOGETHER, EVEN IF FROM DIFFERENT NATIONALITY.

 

 

-LULULEMON IS EN EVIL CULTISH DISCRIMINATING COMPANY THAT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH THE YOGA PHILOSOPHY WHATSOEVER. “MONEY IS BETTER THAN FRIENDS” IN THEIR CASE

 

-THERE IS A MAJOR HOLE IN THE LAW FOR ANY MULTINATIONAL GAY COUPLE TO STAY TOGETHER

 

-AND LOT OF DIFFICULTIES FOR THE LIVING PARTNER TO GET HIS SHARE UPON THE OTHER’S DEATH WHEN FAMILY DOES NOT AGREE.

 

 

JERRY ENRIQUEZ WAS 47, A SUCCESSFUL MARKETING PROFESSIONAL, A GOOD MAN, A DEVOTED HUSBAND, WHO HUNG HIMSELF THANKS TO AMERICAN POLITICS AND LULULEMON.

 

I AM WILFRIED CHEVALIER, BETTER KNOW AS WILFRIED KNIGHT, PROUD OF EVERYTHING I HAVE DONE. AND A DISTRAUGHT WIDOW.

 

Personally i do not know how people in Lululemon can look at themselves in the mirror.

You people, just imagine the guy you worked with, hanging from a rope, cold and still, and foaming at the mouth. I wish i had taken a picture to show you. Good luck living with yourself

 

Documentation is available if not stolen from me before that. I got personally threatened, in order for me to not to speak.

 

Future will tell

61 Comments for And for the ones who cannot take time to read 3 posts: a summary of gay and corporate injustice leading to suicide: thanks to gay discrimination and LULULEMON


judi (@togainunochi)
3 months ago


My condolences for your loss. We must all work together to make international equality happen.

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Scotty W.
3 months ago


Read all the blogs as well as this one and I am sorry for your tragic loss and all the stress and strain put on you. But I also admire your strength to be able to talk about it. Utterly shameful that company was able to do and get away with all that, but hopefully justice will come their way and yours. Best of wishes for you and whatever your future holds.

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Kenn Krambeer
2 months ago


My prayers are with you. Keep fighting, LULULEMON should be dismanteled and rebuilt as a common peaceful place. I never wanted to get married, do not believe in it, but i do think everyone should have that right. Not just who america deems fit.

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Dale Hopson
2 months ago


My thoughts are with you in this terrible time of your life…

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Alex
2 months ago


Very touched and saddened by your story, but proud you brought it to light. Thank you.

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    Robbie
    2 months ago


    According to this post, the author of this blog Willfried Knight is also DEAD?!

    http://www.kennethinthe212.com/2013/03/rip-porn-star-wilfried-knight-commits.html

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Adult film star Wilfried Knight reported passed away | Sayen CroWolf
2 months ago


[...] know him.  From all accounts I’ve read, Knight was a good friend to those that know him, and from his own blog I can see that he was left in pain after his partner hung himself, and left the tools behind for [...]

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Shyla
2 months ago


Speechless and in tears…may you find peace again together in each others arms.

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Joe Palmer
2 months ago


Please accept my condolences on Jerry’s death and my sympathies with all the terrible complications arising from it from his family and the government.

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R.I.P. gay porn star Wilfried Knight | Queer Fever
2 months ago


[...] What makes this even more tragic is the fact that Wilfried’s partner Jerry Enriquez killed himself last month, due to problems at his job with Lululemon in Canada. Wilfried was heart broken, but he made a promise to fight the company the company where Jerry was employed [read the story]. [...]

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Terry Coogan
2 months ago


I am so sorry for your loss. Your post was courageous but full of pain. I hope you are surrounded by friends and family who will lift you up and help you to heal. God rest your husband Jerry’s soul.

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Adrian
2 months ago


oh Wilfried,
I am truly sorry for your loss. Words can’t describe the tragic line of events you have lived and how you are feeling. Its truly sickening to hear of all the injustice you have lived. My heart goes out to you and if there is anything I can do from Beacon, New York. Please, I am at your service. I am so sorry for your loss, and I agree with you 200% about federal gay marriage. Companies like Lululemon must be brought out to the light. We live in a crazy world, full of hate, injustice, and fear. But it is thanks to men like you who arent afraid to have a loud voice when wrongs are committed that truly make a difference in this word. From one human to another, I truly admire the man you are for the courage you have to live a life without conditions without fear. May your story be testimony that will inspire others to stand up and start giving a damn about what is happening. Together,you are right, we can make a difference, and it starts with one person at a time. You have my support friend.
huge hug,
Adrian Roldan

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DailySquirt » Blog Archive » PORN STAR WILFRIED KNIGHT REPORTED DEAD. CAUSE UNKNOWN (via Towleroad)
2 months ago


[...] Knight wrote about Enriquez’s death in a lengthy, emotional blog post dated March 3: [...]

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Frank
2 months ago


This breaks my heart!

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R.I.P. Wilfried Knight Has Passed Away -- QUEER ME NOW : The Hardcore Gay Porn Blog - Gay Porn Stars, Muscle Men, Anal Sex, Gay Porn News, Free XXX Pics and Videos
2 months ago


[...] of 9 years, Jerry Enriquez, who committed suicide by hanging on February 21st. You can read his heartbreaking blog post [...]

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Roger Skeete
2 months ago


This is truly a terrible account 2 read something that was beautiful ending on such a tragic note it’s madness that the only way they could stay 2gether was in death, such is the ugly side of the world we live in.

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Michael
2 months ago


I have no words. This is just so incredibly awful and sad. Two beautiful people. Gone.

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Larry Mullins
2 months ago


This is truly a heart breaking story. I’m just a fan. But had read a lot of hid blogs. And knew he had faced cancer more than once. All through these last few mts. he was making a few more movies before retiring from the adult film business. I grew to think of Wilfred as a real person, not just a porn star. Then I heard about the death of his partner a few weeks ago. Now, all this. And now he’s gone. Suicide is always especially hard to deal with, he must have been very distrought over all the loss and injustice. RIP Wilfred. I hope you and your husband are together now, and all the pain is gone.

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2 months ago


[...] he’d still be alive today.” He elaborated on what happened to his partner in his blog post titled, “a summary of gay and corporate injustice leading to suicide: thanks to gay [...]

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marc
2 months ago


…a true tragedy for two loving men! i knew neither, but with this story can only pray that they are now together, happy in each others arms. peace be with you both!

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GINO
2 months ago


You were a Great Man Wilfried! May you rest forever in peace!

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Michael
2 months ago


Tragic end for this couple. I wish they could have walked about from Lululemon months ago, if they read this from last year. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/stewart-j-lawrence/when-yogis-kill-the-grisl_b_1077457.html

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Frankseanskye
2 months ago


Rest in peace Wilfred, you guys are back together.

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Frankseanskye
2 months ago


Rest in peace Wilfred, you guys are back together.

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Seaguy
2 months ago


I will never understand why some people think killing themselves is the way to fix things. Sad that this happened but I am baffled.

Some guy jumped off the 6th floor of a parking garage across from my office on Friday and I was like why? It certainly was a painful not instant death.

People if your feeling suicidal seek help!

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CHRIS BENNETT
2 months ago


What do you mean cause of death unknown ? Gay marrage is a human right ! Straight people do NOT own marrage ! Religious people do NOT own marrage !
Marrage is where two people who love each other make a commitment to stay together ! What if people believed that a god wants gay people to marry, but straight people not allowed to marry ! Straight people are trying to take and steel something they DON’T own ! Also if its against the bible or what ever, than anyone who has sex and/or devorse, male or female , should not be allowed to marry, besides all the other hypocritical things straight people do against their own religion ! Its like saying, “hey, I’m straight, and I can be the most hypocrtical EVIL person on earth, I can do all these sycotic evil stuff, but if Ibelieve in my god, I will go to heaven”. Religion and god, no matter what religion or god, does NOT work like that, so I wish all of these straight people would STOP acting like it does !

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Howiet1971
2 months ago


This is a sad, shocking and all too common story. And now, Wilfried himself has taken his own life to add to the tragedy. Laws MUST be changed all over the world to ensure people’s partners are recognised after death. RIP both of you. Love & Light. Howard

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nszane
2 months ago


Sorry to hear this. Sorry about everything that went on which lead to losing a beautiful figure/face/person … I think there should be a Syndicate or an Union of a sort – worldwide where people like this couple can turn to in times of need. Governments should be put to shame and disgrace.

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Simon
2 months ago


I wish that it wouldn’t end like this. But life has some dark moments. I whish that their love would conquer difficulties. But wishes are only wishes. I’m deeply moved by ths tragic story.
I hope that it will be spark that would make a change, so we won’t have to read about such stories.

Rest In Peace Wilfried and Jerry

I’m keeping backup rip of site in case of it would magically dissapear because of Lululemon

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Philip Dawson
2 months ago


Take care ‘angels’ and fly a free life.

I will never touch anything to do with LULULEMON and will make sure I share this terrible sad story with others I know.

All of LULULEMON and employee’s BREE STANLAKE, BRIDEY PAYNE, PAUL ZAENGLE, SHEREE WATERSON, MARGARET WHEELER will indeed have to live what they have contributed to – and face their own karma.

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2 months ago


[...] a fortnight ago, when Jerry committed suicide for reasons you can comprehend on Wilfried’s last blog entry. Please take your time to read all of it. It’s much Wilfried had to say in the last fortnight [...]

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Jay Maggio
2 months ago


This is truly a tragic story and I have nothing but sadness for empathy for the pain and struggle the two of you have dealt with just because of your relationship. This is an amazing, tragic, and interesting story of your lives. I think this story of your lives and tragedy could be the basis of a great movie to tell the struggles that many of us have to deal with daily in our lives. I hope you find someone to produce it and show the world how challenging and tragic it can be to gay in this world. Big hugs, ~ Jay

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Marco
2 months ago


Total cult!

http://www.businessinsider.com/12-utterly-bizarre-facts-about-the-rise-of-lululemon-2012-4?op=1

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Jacques Stoffels
2 months ago


So sorry reading these words. As a Belgian I can hardly understand such firm politics and segretation towards gay men but I worked for almost 30 years for an worldwide transport organization and I know very well what’s all about the practises of these big cies. Sure all laws towards gay people must be improved in all world countries but also the general mentality that reign in all those monstruous holding cies in which the human person never counts, gay, bi or hetero, this makes for them no difference at all, no difference and this has to stop and to change for an entire better world.

Jacques

R.I.P. <3

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David Knight
2 months ago


This is a sad and tragic tale, of two men who seemed deeply in love but deeply persecuted.Wether that was in fact the case or just their perception is at best troubling. What really concerns me(apart from the obvious political injustices, and problems with multinational gay relocation) is that there have been an epidemic of porn stars dying. Wether by their own hand or by their lifestyle choices. This is unacceptable. These people are not criminals, they have made a choice to work in an industry predicated on the ultimate destruction of their talent. Society is no better with our voracious appetite for graphic sexual recreations, we look down on the same people we desire. We should all be ashamed. This one is on us all.

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Norton
2 months ago


It’s worth visiting the Lululemon company details from wikipedia

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lululemon_Athletica

Especially “Management practices”, “Corporate philosophy and practices”, “Vitasea fabric controversy”, “2011 murder of Jayna Murray”

What an interesting company that is. Waoowww waow, waow.

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Ned
2 months ago


This is such a disgrace, how can these people at Lululemon sleep at night? How are companies like this allowed to get away with what they do. This story breaks my heart. Just terrible.
Ned.

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Chad B
2 months ago


I just read this today as it was posted by bloggers who reported the death of Wilfried Chavalier aka as Wilfried Knight. I don’t know much about Mr. Chavalier but I am deeply saddened by this story. This story enraged me and at the same time broke my heart . It appeared that as a binational couple they were simply trying to find happiness and to make things work and it was rather unfortunate that they were NOT given a chance, which ultimately led to their untimely death.
I am aware of the challenges and hurdles that surrounds a binational couple. We have friends in very similar situations so I do what I can to help push for immigration equality for GLBT couples. After all, love is love right?
As for lulumelon, my eyes are now open to the really mission behind this company. You don’t become this big without having any skeletons and thanks to both Jerry and Wilfried I am no longer going to shop at lulumelon. I know this came after Wilfried’s death but wherever you and Jerry may be, I hope that the Universe is keeping both of you together.. free from judgments.

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John
2 months ago


R.I.P. Wilfried.

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DruName*
2 months ago


A another self absorbed rant from a gay who feels simply victimized for every bad event in life gets no sympathy from me. If multinational corporations and a complex visa system (of multiple countries not just the us) led you to your death leads me to believe you had bigger issues. Sorry life didn’t work out but that’s life you can sit around and blame others (yeah you can just blame everything on bush) but that’s no way to prosper. Again no pity here.

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Joel Bernor
2 months ago


I am so sorry you had to die. I am so sorry you both had to die. I didn’t know either of you. I didn’t even know you as a “porn star”. But the sadness of your story, the sadness of your life, has lead me to comment on your post. I wish there was something someone could do. I wish there was another option for you. For both of you. I pray to a God. A God I hope you are with. I hope you are at peace now. I hope the loss you experienced is no longer there. I hope you are with him. I am so sorry you had to die.

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RickJ75
2 months ago


I had never even heard of Lululemon before reading this blog entry (and I do lots of yoga), and the name “lululemon” alone is so unbelievably annoying and grating, I hope I never hear of it again!!!

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Lola
2 months ago


RIP to the both of you…I hope you are together at last xxx

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Michael Sam
2 months ago


Now u rest in peace with ur man. U bot are trully the romeo and juliet version of gay men world. So proud of you. May you both rest in peace… Deep condolance…

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2 months ago


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Uros
2 months ago


R.I.P. Wilfried and my condolences to the families.

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Christian
2 months ago


So Sad, May you both RIP and finally be together without so much torment and turmoil.

How many people must die before they get it! Wake up world!

Rest in Peace Wilfried & Jerry

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Alice
2 months ago


This is so very sad, that this day in age that terrible things are still happening in the work force to cause such heartache for real people whatever their sexual / life preference is…..:(
Shame on Lululemon for their ignorance !!!! I hope that you, Wilf and Jerry will find true peace in each other on the other side <3

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Nicholas
2 months ago


RIP

This is so sad. I had never even heard of Lululemon till their CEO was on the Katie show the other day talking about women CEOs

Thats neither here no there. The issue of federal marriage and couples being able to stay together – whether the US or any other country is MAJOR and affecting many couples with and without children. Right now, I have an Australia friend who has been dating a foreign student on a VISA. They are already starting to panic and are moving in together so they can prove they have a relationship. Im not 100% sure of what the laws are there but think they are more favorable than the US. Ive seen the stories on TV of gay couples with children who are being split apart or forces to renounce their US citizen ship.

In terms of suicide of so many porn stars, its sad…I may not do porn but have suffered from treatment resistant depression all my life and am surprised to still be alive. Some say thats courage; others like me say its fear…but every day full of misery cant continue

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Vincent
2 months ago


RIP!

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Ward Levin
2 months ago


My deepest sympathy at all this tragedy. I too have been the victim of homophobia at the highest levels of the funeral service industry. I am certain there are those who had hoped I too would commit suicide. I will not give them the satisfaction. In fact, after 12 years of inaction, I plan to become an active adversary of this insidious and cruel bigotry which permeates our culture even amid the progress that gays and lesbians have made. We need no more martyrs for this cause. What we do need are many more voices, shrill and piercing through the din of ignorant shouting. Let us fight the good fight!

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Name*Alexis Maillard
2 months ago


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I’ve just heard about Wilfried Knight (Chevalier)’s death, who committed suicide on March 5th 2013, and then I’ve read his (last?) posted blog on his website…
I’m shocked and really sad about what happened to his husband Jerry, with all the problems he went trough in his job…, apparently leading him to commit suicide in their home…
As a French man, I always thought USA was a much more “advanced” country on Gay Rights- it is still on certain levels I must admit-, even for a “multinational gay couple”, apparently it is not, and so is Canada! If I have got it right you must be two American male citizen to be allowed to get married- legal in some East Coast states in USA…-, but it doesn’t apply for someone who is from another country even if this person has a job and a visa and lives with his partner…
Guess it will be the same here in France, when Gay marriage will be finally authorized- by the end of Spring or early Summer 2013, as they told us…-, will a foreign guy be able to marry a French guy and stay with him in France?…, probably not or on certain specific terms…
Anyway, I feel really sad for Wilfried and Jerry’s story…, it’s almost unbelievable that such a story can still occur in our civilized Western countries…, it’s like we’re back (or better, we’re still) in the 1950s, when you could be put in jail – and then be the “shame of the town”- when you got arrested for (just) drinking a beer in a assumed gay bar…
I do hope people will continue to fight for better Gay Human Rights, just and simply as equal to “Straight Human Rights”…, because the fight is far from being over, even in 2013, as we all can see and realize, this sad story that has just happened to Wilfried and Jerry is one among many other sad proofs.
Let this story not be forgotten.
Wilfried, you were a real “Knight”, your courage was sadly prevented…, RIP.
Alexis Maillard,
Paris, France.

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2 months ago


[...] March 3rd, 2013, Wilfried published on his blog an account of the events that led to Jerry hanging himself. Apparently Jerry’s being bullied at [...]

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Your Asian audience in Germany
2 months ago


Wilfried,

Please accept my deepest condolences. But, could this be the truth on the 12th March?! You just followed him, your beloved husband, to the other world ?!

This can not be more tragic and sad…Reading your words would be already quite moving and hurting.

…

May you the devoted couple rest in peace. This probably would remind more people to really think about those inequality, discrimination, holes of law, and indifference and pretentiousness in anyone of us.

R.I.P.

Hendrik,

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Ozyogi
2 months ago


I am so sorry for your loss. I live in Australia and teach Yoga full time. I completely agree with you about lulu… I’ve always seen through their smokescreen and have only ever seen a love of $$$. Which is strange as they’re ‘clothing educators’ not clothing salespeople… I almost worked for them myself, but my love of loudly speaking the truth made me an unacceptable candidate.
I hope that you heal in time. Don’t give up your fight. Keep telling the truth. Never give in to despair. By sharing your story you have already begun making a difference.
Thankyou xxx

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Lyn
2 months ago


Oh Wilfried. I am so sorry. I hope you and Jerry are together somewhere, where no one discriminates, no one hates, and everyone accepts everyone else as simply another child of the universe. Safe travels, friend. Be at peace.

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FrretoLOve74
2 months ago


I believe in life as a research of the souls linked to you in previous “experience”, on the night between the 3rd and the 4th of march I felt very bad, and the 3rd of march i wake up and feel as i missed someone very important. This really scares me ’cause it never happened and i don’t know if it’s linked to what happened to Wilfried. I think that life is a search of the people you were forever connected in past lives and of the new ones with which to continue this wonderful journey. I have the same problems as cancer, and more or less the same age as Wilfried, and when I read the news I had a shot to my heart. I’m so sorry that a nice person who has suffered so much is gone in a way so tragic. I hope the in his new life he’ll find all the godd people and all the love he didn’t find now. He deserve it. (xcuse for my english, I’m Italian…) A big hug to all those who love him, FreetoLove74

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David Manske
2 months ago


I’m sorry , I wish I could have helped somehow

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2 months ago


[...] despues, el 5 de marzo, es el propio Knight el que opta también por suicidarse. A día de hoy todavía es posible leer en el blog de Knight la narración de como se vieron forzados a abandonar Estados Unidos, el enfrentamiento de [...]

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Michael Lucas Addresses Recent Spate Of Porn-Star Suicides | Gay Guide Vegas
2 months ago


[...] Coming so soon after the suicides of Roman Ragazzi last year and of Arpad Miklos just last month, Wilfried’s death is deeply troubling. I am scared at what this trend suggests about the gay world. It’s not just porn stars who are killing themselves; about ten guys in my gym alone have recently committed suicide. (Wilfried’s partner, Jerry, killed himself just two weeks ago, as Wilfried wrote about here.) [...]

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